Tuesday, January 27, 2009

I AM AT A LOSS...

I just learned tonight that my husband's cousin lost her son today. He wasn't a baby, he was in his 20's. He was shot in a home invasion. That is all I know. She was crying so hard on the phone I couldn't understand everything she was telling me.

Her and I have grown especially close over these past 10 months. Her first child, a little girl, died shortly after birth. She never got to hold her while she was alive. She understands everything I feel, and is the only person in my family that I have talked to in depth about Brenna.

She raised one of her sister's sons as her own, and he passed away also. I can't imagine how she is going to get through this. I just can't.

When she called I felt so helpless. What do you say to someone who is hurting so badly? What do you do for them? I didn't know, even though I feel like I should.

5 comments:

Kristi said...

Oh Holli, I'm so sorry about this. This is proving to be an equally crap-tastic year isn't it? ((hugs)) Just so senseless.

Spellbound said...

Goodness. I guess the only thing you can do for her right now is be a shoulder to cry on. How sad for her!

CLC said...

I am so sorry. What an awful lot of heartaches she has had to endure. No words of advice, but you know that just being there for her listening to her will help her immensely.

JenJen said...

I'm so sorry, Holli. This poor lady has been through so much in life already, and now this~ there are no words for how sad I feel for her. I'm with CLC, just being there to hug her and listen when she's ready to talk.

((hugs))

DD said...

Oh my heart just aches for you and your husband's family. I can only wish you strength as you lend an ear, a shoulder, a hand.