HUSBAND: Do you want to do (such and such) with me?
ME: I don't know. When is it?
HUSBAND: It's a Saturday. March 5th I think.
ME: Silence and blank stare. March 5th isn't a saturday.
HUSBAND: Well then the 2nd or something, I don't know.
ME: looking away I don't know what's going on.
HUSBAND: You don't know what your doing in two weekends, but you know March 5th isn't a saturday. How do you know that?
Because it's your dead daughter's birthday you asshole!
I started this blog in 2008 after the stillbirth of my daughter. Now it's not just about loss, but about life.
6 comments:
Ouch! Sometimes our lovely husbands are not as observate or sensitive as they could be...I'm sorry, lovey~
Either most of us are married to assholes or it's a man thing. I had to remind Mark and that's after all his friends told him that was a day he better not ever forget! Just another stab in the heart. We remember
I honestly don't think he was trying to hurt your feelings. Men just think of things differently. Just because he didn't remember off the top of his head that that's when her birthday is doesn't mean he doesn't care at all. Guys have a harder time linking dates to emotion. That's why they forget birthdays (ours included, at times), anniversaries, first kiss dates... and we get hurt that they don't remember. It doesn't mean he doesn't have emotion over your sweet little Brenna. I'm sure he misses her and grieves for her in his own way.
Big hugs to you. I know how it feels. I had to remind Brian of the six month anniversary of Jenna's birth. I'll probably have to do the same on her first birthday. They just don't think the same as we do.
I have been following your blog through my daughter-in-law's and crying with you. I'm thinking your husband really does care, March5th was engrained in his memory he knew it was a date to remember he just couldn't remember why. He was speachless when you reminded him? It doesn't mean he doesn't care, men just think & feel in a different way. I'm so sorry for your pain.
Ugh. UGH!!! I'm so sorry. I'm sure he wasn't thinking.
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