Monday, October 6, 2008

Update

I know I'm not bad luck. But this is such a crappy thing. When you really love someone, whether they are family or just feel like family, you hurt with them. My husband's family is large, and has lost many members. It been hard. I saw both of his parents die. But this is different. They were old, they had full lives. Even though we wanted them with us longer, their death was no surprise. It was not tragic. Rob's death is tragic. He was a young, vibrant person looking forward to the rest of his life. He had found that person that we all look for. His soul mate. The love of his life, as he put it. And it ended all too soon. They live next door to the funeral home. Something he said freaks me out now. He said it was freaky living there because whenever someone died, he would see the body being delivered. I'll never forget that. Today, Amber saw them delivering his body. It was horrible. She had to be restrained because she tried to run out to the house to see him. She kept saying all she wanted to do was hug him. All she keeps on thinking of his him falling. Dragging his broken body through the woods. It's just horrible. It's so terrible when someone you love is hurting so badly, and there is nothing you can do to help them. We've always done everything at the same time. Went to the same school, same grade, shared the same locker, married older husbands, had our babies at the same time. I never thought we'd share this too. I never thought we'd both be burying loved ones just a few months apart.



This is Amber and Rob, the first night they met, on my husband's birthday.


6 comments:

Kristi said...

I'm so sorry Holli. It's tough no matter from what angle you're looking at things. I just cannot imagine. I'll be keeping you and Amber and her friends and family in my thoughts and prayers.

Mrs. Spit said...

I'm sorry Holli. He had such kind eyes.

I'll keep you both in my prayers. I wish there was more I could do.

Mrs. Mother said...

They looked so sweet together. I am so sorry. I really have no words.

Jennifer Currey said...

Words can't express my sorrow for your best friend. I can only guess that it feels like a nightmare for her. This must also be so hard for you. I'm sorry...

Busted said...

I'm so terribly sorry.

mrsmuelly said...

Holli, this is so sad. It's so awful. Many, many prayers.