Wednesday, April 27, 2011


Am I the only one who's sick of hearing about the "Royal Wedding"? Somebody shoot me.

But all this talk about weddings has me reminiscing about my own wedding.

I got married when I was 21. My husband was 37.

And we already had a one-year-old son.

This did not go over well with our religious mothers. They wanted us to get married.

My husband is the most romantic person in the whole entire world. He really swept my off my feet. His proposal was like out of a great love story. It was a-maz-ing. It went something like this:

Picture me standing in the kitchen, I was feeding our toddler. My husband was standing in the living room, picking up a log to put in the fireplace. It was January. We were talking about getting our taxes done.

And then it happened.

He said, "You know, if we get married this year it would be a tax deduction."

I said, "Hmmm".

And that was it.

We were engaged.

Looking back I would never accept a proposal like that now. I think I deserve a little better than that. He didn't even get me a ring until two weeks before the wedding. What can I say, I was young, dumb, and in love. A recipe for stupid decisions. (For the record- I've put a lot of work into my husband since then and he's nothing like that today. It's taken awhile, but he's learned.)   :)

We were married that fall. I knew that I was only going to get married once in my life. I took those vows seriously. So I wanted a spectacular wedding. Looking back, I'm happy about our wedding. The ceremony took place in an 1800's chapel. All the woodwork and the pews were original. It was so very "us".

Our reception was at a golf course down the road from the chapel. I think of our wedding every time I drive by there. The food was fantastic. We had so much fun. We don't have as many pictures as I would like, but we have pictures. We forgot the video camera so we don't have any  video which really makes me sad.

I know that many people at our wedding didn't expect us to stay married. I know that they talked about our age difference, and they were probably taking bets on how fast we'd get a divorce.

Look at us now. This year we will celebrate our thirteenth wedding anniversary and we've been together for going on sixteen years.

Every one of my friends who got married around the same time we did is now divorced. Even the ones who everyone expected would make it.

You never know what's in a person's heart.

Marrying my husband was probably the best decision I've ever made.

This post is part of the A to Z Challenge.


Matt Conlon said...

Toally with you there. I couldn't care less.

I'm actually sort of irritated that the event is as expensive as it is. I'd feel like it would be my job to NOT WASTE the tax payer's money on MY wedding.

Matt Conlon said...

By the way, my proposal was similar... We were at Zales (jewelry store) and she was trying on rings. She'd always done that. The sales lady asked me if I wanted to open a line of credit. I said yes. And so it was.

...turned out my credit was so bad, SHE had to open a line of credit. So technically she bought her own engagement ring.

Rae said...

First: I am so glad to hear somebody else who is sick of the Royal Wedding! Politically incorrect- but who cares?
Second: Could our husband's be related? We got my ring two days before the wedding- which was at a preachers house- and I have 3 photos! :(
But we've been married almost 36 years!
Congrats on your true love!

Jennee said...

Wow! Great for you guys! I love the "proposal." I guess tax deductions are romantic!

TanaLee Davis said...

Well I'm glad that you and your man have beat the odds and I'm happy to know that even in tragedy you both have stayed together. Congrats!

I understand about the family not so excited about the marriage and kid stuff....although I didn't have a child out of wedlock I did get pregnant two weeks after the I do's. I still kinda get grief over how we did things and I'm coming up on two years of marriage. Oh well right? When you love someone you make it work.