Tuesday, June 9, 2009


Wow. I had no idea that sharing a few links about a fake deadbaby story would cause so much commotion. Let me clarify. I did not spew hatred or say anything negative towards anyone. All I said is who would do this (a question) and that I was speechless (a statement). The title of the post itself was a question! I really see no reason for anyone to lash out at me. I have not really followed that blog, and I don't know the specifics. I was just astounded that anyone would think of doing such a thing.

For the record, I think that all "b" has to do to prove herself is to post a picture of herself with her baby. If someone were saying that my dead child had never existed I would flood my blog with pictures and proof of her existence. I wouldn't retreat and delete my blog.

But that's just me.


JenJen said...

I just read that last comment on your previous post and I honestly think our anger is coming from the protectiveness of anyone in the babyloss community and the possiblity of this being a hoax is hurtful to anyone that has truly lost a baby. I agree with you about if these people are telling the truth than they should give proof to all of these people that have been following this story for months.

I had to reread the comment that I left you because I worried that you thought I was yelling at you...please, don't take it that way. I was just completey shocked to read this story.

Breanna said...

im sorry that someone lashed out on you. that is not right.

If you kept up with the blogs you posted, someone called and there was never a baby.

I cant believe the lengths people go to just to get attention.

Reese said...


Apparently those closest to the fire have agreed that it was indeed a scam.

Sorry to disappoint Lynn.

I did not follow this blog, and I am not out to speak trash. But as a Mom to a T18 baby who is grieving the loss of her son every. waking. day, I am extremely sad more than anything. I didn't get to have a prayer circle for my son, blog pictures of his 'miraculous' birth, because there was no miracle--he died before we even knew he was sick. My friend H delivered her daughter who also had T18---and she passed within minutes of being born.

THESE are the very real tragedies. Not the betrayal by some punk-assed kids who don't know tragedy. They have my pity--but I will not waste my time with anger.

Let us not waste any more time on these people. Let us send prayers to the people who really need it tonight....

Kristi said...

I'm with you Holli, 100%. I can understand those not feeling like they need to "prove" themselves but those are usually those who have nothing to prove, KWIM? Most of us deadbabymommas are more than happy to share the beauty that WE see in our child whether they look like the "perfect" newborn or not.

I'm sorry that your blog got turned into a debate ground :S There's certainly no need for people to be getting mad at you. Obviously "B" does need our prayers, just probably different than what they were before.

Funsize said...

I have to agree with you. All she has to do is show something- a picture of her and the baby after birth, even a picture of her hand and feet molds, to prove the baby is real. Even pictures of a goodbye ceremony would be satisfactory.

Because, losing a baby is the worst thing in the world. To pretend the nightmare happened to you...karma will come back. I do not believe in God- because I don't believe a god would send this kind of pain and infinite sadness on anyone. I believe in biology- in my case my body failed and killed my son. But I do believe that what energy you send out into the Universe will come back to you. If it is a sham, she will be getting hers.
If she wants to be a mother to a dead baby, I'll gladly trade my life with her.

MendedHeart said...

No one in his right mind would pretend to have lost a baby UNLESS you do have a serious mental problem. I can't really say much because I didn't follow the blog - and I am glad I haven't. Holli all you did was giving your opinion and anybody is entitled to do that. :)

Carly Marie said...

I feel sorry for Lynn, Don't let her upset you though. She more than likely followed Beccah's blog and is extremely hurt herself. Or simply did not want to believe such a story could be true.

Unfortunately it was true. Many have been hurt. I think for the people that did follow her, well they just need to take a step back and think of what they can learn from such a mess. I will never follow a blog of a person who strive to keep such animosity when living in an absolute crisis.

I have to tell my friend when she comes home from her trip that it was a hoax. She bought t-shirts and spent many an hour coming up with precious ideas to help Beccah get through this.

Love to you x

Carly x