Thursday, June 17, 2010


My son is 13 now, and he is at that age where he really doesn't care about me anymore, and would rather be with his friends. When I try to spend time with him he blows me off most of the time. I hate it.

It doesn't matter what I do in regards to my son lately, I end up feeling guilty. Lately my guilt centers around the fact that I feel guilty that he can't have friends over as often as he would like because I work. I don't know what my problem is, but I have been feeling so guilty lately it's ridiculous!

Does anyone else with kids feel this way? Is this normal? Why would I worry about something so silly?

I may be going crazy.


Mrs. Mother said...

You aren't crazy. Mom guilt is a totally real thing. A few years ago, I underwent a serious bout of depression and sought counseling. I expressed to her how guilty I felt all the time. She said she had talked to her doctor about it, and he told her that when a baby is born, the doctor takes the baby and replaces it in the uterus with guilt.

I think that's totally true. I think we all feel guilty about something.

Andi said...

I'm a teenager around his age. Trust me, he does not hate you. He doesn't want to show it, and honestly, if he said "I love you mom" wouldn't you grab him and shake him screaming "WHO ARE AND WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH MY SON?!" I don't know. It's just a kid thing. When he gets older, he'll appreciate you and what you've done for him. It's normal to feel guilty. Right now, you may look like the enemy, but later when he's an adult, he'll realize you were right and how much he loves you.