Part 1 is Here
My style of parenting has always been to allow my children to make their own decisions- this is especially true since my stepdaughter has grown into an adult. I don't appreciate being lectured, and that isn't something I do to my kids. I will give them advice if needed; for my stepdaughter I usually only offer it if she asks.
It was very difficult for me when she separated from her husband last April because I honestly thought it was a mistake. They loved each other and had been together for eight years. It seemed like such a waste. They started out trying to be civil to each other, especially for the sake of their two very young children. But emotions got in the way, and there were times it got very ugly. I finally said something to them the night my grandson started crying at my house. It broke my heart to see him like that, and I wanted to kick them both in the ass for putting him through that.
The hardest part as a parent is sitting by and watching your children make mistakes and all the while hoping they will learn the lesson in it.
They moved back in together a few weeks ago. I wasn't surprised at all, but I was really happy.
I hope they remember that no matter how bad it gets, they were miserable without each other, and they can work through it.
I've said it before and I'll say it again- Great marriages don't just happen, they are made.