Tuesday, September 20, 2011


Part 1 is Here

My style of parenting has always been to allow my children to make their own decisions- this is especially true since my stepdaughter has grown into an adult. I don't appreciate being lectured, and that isn't something I do to my kids. I will give them advice if needed; for my stepdaughter I usually only offer it if she asks.

It was very difficult for me when she separated from her husband last April because I honestly thought it was a mistake. They loved each other and had been together for eight years. It seemed like such a waste. They started out trying to be civil to each other, especially for the sake of their two very young children. But emotions got in the way, and there were times it got very ugly. I finally said something to them the night my grandson started crying at my house. It broke my heart to see him like that, and I wanted to kick them both in the ass for putting him through that.

The hardest part as a parent is sitting by and watching your children make mistakes and all the while hoping they will learn the lesson in it.

They moved back in together a few weeks ago. I wasn't surprised at all, but I was really happy.

I hope they remember that no matter how bad it gets, they were miserable without each other, and they can work through it.

I've said it before and I'll say it again- Great marriages don't just happen, they are made.


Mari G said...

I love that line "Great marriages don't just happen, they are made."
So true.
I wish your stepdaughter and husband the very best.
Thank you for sharing!

Rae said...

Marriage is work, too. If I had left every time my husband and I argued, we wouldn't have made it past the honeymoon. We're celebrating 36 years this Saturday.
My daughter just divorced and I try to tell myself that we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. My son-in-law seems like a great guy, but lately I see another side of him. I'm starting to understand....

spinohio said...

I can't explain how much I needed to read this right now. Thank you for sharing. Lots of best wishes for your step daughter, her husband and their children.