tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post3850990803302567739..comments2023-10-28T07:55:58.680-04:00Comments on Living Without Brenna: ACCEPTANCEB's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15884800524058312982noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-35254986545950856052011-06-09T04:02:01.141-04:002011-06-09T04:02:01.141-04:00Here from Creme. When I was at university a girlfr...Here from Creme. When I was at university a girlfriend and I came up with this game to find the gold in every situation no matter how bad. I forget entirely about that game as my life moved on but it took IF to make me look for the gold. As hard as it is to swallow I believe everything is a blessing, you just don't it yet. Although the last 3 1/2 years of struggling through IF and depression Tanyahttp://www.fertilehealing.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-57432952795722867122011-03-20T01:39:31.831-04:002011-03-20T01:39:31.831-04:00Thanks for summing it up so well. I think I’ll be ...Thanks for summing it up so well. I think I’ll be returning here often. Best Regards.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-60146938686454098032011-02-10T19:53:13.180-05:002011-02-10T19:53:13.180-05:00Thank you for writting this because this is how I ...Thank you for writting this because this is how I feel most days when trying to reply to threads on loss boards and most times feeling as though I cant answer those threads frankly or that I cant reply with such things as, you will smile again some day' incase others view me as 'strange' or patronising. I believe that yes their loss is terrible and sad and will live with us forever *Lucy*https://www.blogger.com/profile/09671542426581410017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-16926800257761503452011-02-01T07:19:20.382-05:002011-02-01T07:19:20.382-05:00Good dispatch and this post helped me alot in my c...Good dispatch and this post helped me alot in my college assignement. Gratefulness you as your information..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-69094882649781084252011-01-02T19:47:18.650-05:002011-01-02T19:47:18.650-05:00I don't have any kids, so I can't say that...I don't have any kids, so I can't say that I know how it feels to lose a child, but my mom did. In my opinion she never got over it, she just learned how to live with a hole in her heart.<br /><br />All the moms that have lost a child, deserve all of my respect and admiration for they are strong as steel.Paxarila in Flighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15808028752558757353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-5159558291751881622010-12-31T20:11:38.015-05:002010-12-31T20:11:38.015-05:00I am so pleased to have found this. I get a bit s...I am so pleased to have found this. I get a bit stuck over all the terms. When I first lost Finley I was adamant that I would not ever move on - because I thought that meant leaving him behind. I had a few weeks of raw pain , physical pain, heart pain, emotional pain, mental anguish but then I started working through some things. I quickly found a sense of peace - which I later decided was Melhttp://www.finleysfootprints.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-21606313604019323932010-12-28T06:29:20.854-05:002010-12-28T06:29:20.854-05:00I think you'll find that you're not on you...I think you'll find that you're not on your own on this one. Where you are at IS okay... it's a place we never think we'll reach, never think we'll see a day without tears and ache and grief...<br /><br />and then without realising it... we're sort of 'there'... I think I watched from 'there' as you kind of headed in that direction. I hoped it would Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15413684955650645277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-77797027313842924532010-12-20T17:35:17.521-05:002010-12-20T17:35:17.521-05:00This is one of the most beautiful, healing blog po...This is one of the most beautiful, healing blog posts I have ever read. (And I read a lot... I'm a spiritual counselor and wellness coach).<br /><br />Life only revolved around what you make it revolve around.<br /><br />You could be a beacon of light to many... I would surely like to hear more about your path to healing.<br /><br />Much Love.Wendy Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15996794861795151328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-74114084404346681192010-12-06T08:22:04.322-05:002010-12-06T08:22:04.322-05:00I know how you feel..it's really a heart break...I know how you feel..it's really a heart breaking experience to lose someone that you really loved so much...it's difficult to go on at first, but I'm sure everything will fall into place soon.<br />God Bless!<br /><br />krizza from Philippines<br />http://krizza-lifestipsandtricks.blogspot.comkrizzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13557209639526947800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-23473979402778956972010-12-02T18:20:16.862-05:002010-12-02T18:20:16.862-05:00Thanks for your comment on my blog.
I see a lot o...Thanks for your comment on my blog. <br />I see a lot of myself in your post. I don't know that I can say that I have moved on yet, but I have moved forward. Yes, I still think about my daughter and still think about what could have been. But your right, I am not grieving her the way I used to. I used to go to a support group and I just don't feel the need to go anymore. My daughter Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02498328152168624157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-4251541383941420322010-11-29T22:00:54.323-05:002010-11-29T22:00:54.323-05:00I could have written this myself. And there defini...I could have written this myself. And there definitely IS a place for you (and I) within the community.<br /><br />I have been in the very same place for a long time now. I remember right after my son's stillbirth, thinking 'how will we EVER get over this? How will we EVER move on?' But in truth, we accepted it and moved on. Thinking of him no longer causes me to break down in sobs, Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10979257233557088253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-45090109050196770572010-11-28T00:03:24.836-05:002010-11-28T00:03:24.836-05:00Very well said Holli. Acceptance is the perfect wo...Very well said Holli. Acceptance is the perfect word. I feel the same way. I still get caught off guard sometimes with weird little reminders but my life has moved forward. It has to and I think it's awesome that you feel the release from your grief!<br />KaraKarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316070983840686420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-83826035594258575642010-11-27T23:44:23.229-05:002010-11-27T23:44:23.229-05:00Thanks for your honesty. Although I cannot necess...Thanks for your honesty. Although I cannot necessarily relate to those same exact feelings, I do think that the thing I've accepted about grief is that we all have our own way to grieve our children. And it's all ok, maybe some grief differently, or stop grieving earlier than others in your case, but that is still ok. I'm glad you feel open to sharing this, I think that shows that Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483071078235764202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-72386772856223223492010-11-26T02:54:02.406-05:002010-11-26T02:54:02.406-05:00i think that what you've described is a beauti...i think that what you've described is a beautiful place to have reached. the fact that you love her scar, understand that she is a blessing, and have integrated her into your life, gives hope, i believe, that bereaved parents can eventually find happiness again - without forgetting or leaving their children behind. you show that "moving on" is not the same as "moving without&crystal theresahttp://fragments.louielovescrystal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-80776766998664747902010-11-25T23:58:04.525-05:002010-11-25T23:58:04.525-05:00I think I feel that way too- I am at a place in my...I think I feel that way too- I am at a place in my life where it doesn't revolve around dead babies and sadness. I am happy and at peace with the way things worked out. I am thankful for the lessons my babies taught me.Jaymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03278891048170366347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-73965229905339837022010-11-25T12:50:25.895-05:002010-11-25T12:50:25.895-05:00I think it's great that you have found peace w...I think it's great that you have found peace with all that you have gone through. And I think a lot of the people you read probably have too---the grief is not as daunting, but rather people who have been on this journey a while tend to make more observations of what life is without their child.<br /><br />There is a big assumption that we should wear our grief like chains around our neck, Reesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05413272465193894312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-76944329112059467212010-11-25T10:12:30.143-05:002010-11-25T10:12:30.143-05:00You are an amazing woman and mother. I am glad you...You are an amazing woman and mother. I am glad you are doing better and I think about you and brenna daily. *I still haven't changed my debit card, it still reads Brenna instead of Breanna*Breannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07184510631140153105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-427422437896868886.post-87269859644915250832010-11-25T09:55:33.566-05:002010-11-25T09:55:33.566-05:00In many ways, I feel the same way. I can go days ...In many ways, I feel the same way. I can go days with peace but there are still days where I think about what ifs...I truly believe that we'll all do that though. I think some of us can go longer without the all consuming grief but I don't think (for me at least) that I will ever be 100% okay with her not being here. I've learned to deal with it with grace but I'll never be okayJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02695243793883254621noreply@blogger.com