This is why I love blogging.
My "blog-friend" CLC commented on my last post, and she made a very good point that no one has made to me before. She said, "Someone's miscarriage might be the worse thing they have dealt with." It really made me think. Of course the person I was referring to in my earlier post fell apart when she had a miscarriage. That is because that was the worst lost she experienced. I should not minimize her loss just because I feel that mine is "worse". It's not fair. Just because my baby was older doesn't make her more important than my friend's baby. We both lost babies. I just got to hold mine.
Thanks for that comment. It really made me think, and it made things much clearer for me. I"m embarassed to say, I kind of feel like a bitch now. (The feeling will pass, don't worry!) :)
I started this blog in 2008 after the stillbirth of my daughter. Now it's not just about loss, but about life.
4 comments:
I didn't mean to make you feel like a bitch. I was trying to say (and I had 2 glasses of wine in me when I wrote it) that it sucks for someone to compare a loss that's different, but it's probably the worst thing she knows so she thinks she can relate. It took me a long time to accept that. It made my blood boil in the begininng when I heard people refer to my loss as a miscarriage. But it's just a word, but I have learned it's just words and that they are irrelevant in the long run. Our pain is still deep. Ok, I will stop rambling, but I didn't write that so you feel like a bitch!!
You have to vent somewhere though right? Of course everyone has their own personal tragedies. BUT I must say I can't imagine anything worse than loosing a child, a child that you got to see, to hold, to feel move. My very first pregnancy was an ectopic and I was DEVASTATED it was my tragedy and I couldn't really see past it. But, now (5 years later) that I have a child I CANNOT imagine going through what you are going through/ went through with Brenna. Unimaginable. You are such a strong woman.
CLC~ You didn't make me feel like a bitch. I just felt bitchy because I was ranting about how MY loss was worse, and that really wasn't fair.
Tabatha~ I don't feel strong. You just do what you have to.
Yeah, I would feel like that too.
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